Can I just say - Annie is so insanely gorgeous.
This entire shoot, I was fawning over her! I would snap one and then go...
"OHHH my gosh, Annie. You have no idea how good you look!"
I looked okay that day, but next to her I was a total street hag.
Annie & Tim's wedding was amazing. I loved every minute of it! It was gorgeous & perfect.
If you missed their engagement shoot, check it out here!
It seems I'm a full-time wedding planner at the moment - between officially planning 1 wedding in Houston, unofficially planning another in Houston and being involved in every shoot and party of my cousin's big bash (next week!!!!! See their engagement photos I did here). For the record, I love love love all things weddings. As if you didn't catch that.
Since my own wedding this past year, there were a few things I learned about wedding etiquette and things I wished my guests knew. Here are 3 things every average human being should know about weddings (and parties in general).
1. DO NOT INVITE YOURSELF
For some reason, every person that has met a bride at any time in her life (even an acquaintance) expects to be invited to her wedding. Being friends on facebook does not make you friends in real life. I know this for a fact, because I have so many facebook friends with which I've never even had a conversation.
PLEASE don't make a comment when the couple gets engaged like, "I can't wait to get that invitation!" Or "Do you need my mailing address?" - Or "I'd be happy to do X as your wedding gift" when you don't know for sure that you're invited. This makes the couple feel obligated to invite you whether they want your services or not.
Weddings are very VERY expensive. Virtually no one has a beer & bbq backyard party anymore (would someone please? this sounds fun) where the price per guest is as little as 12 cents. After all of the flat-rate costs, there are costs per person. Many venues charge a flat rate of - say - $7,500, then $10 per person over 100 people. Food is typically $30-100/person (depending on the plate). The cake is billed per slice. So it's not a like a big party to which they can invite unlimited guests. Please be considerate!
2. DON'T RSVP A DATE THAT WASN'T INVITED
This goes for your siblings, children and relatives, too. THIS IS A HUGE ONE! I don't know why people think this is ok??
Standard protocol for wedding invitations is as follows:
If the outer envelope says, "Mr. and Mrs. Jones", only those 2 people are invited. Do not RSVP for yourself and your children if they were not mentioned on the envelope. If the envelope says, "The Jones Family" or "Jim, Sara, Michael, Sam and Martha Jones", the family is invited. If the invitation says, "Michael Jones + 1", Michael has been offered to invite a date. Otherwise, don't RSVP a date. Furthermore, don't e-mail the couple and say, "Hey, can I bring a date?" That's so rude! It puts the couple in an awkward position - between offending Michael (God forbid) and paying $100 for an extra person they don't even know and Michael will probably break up with in a month.
3. RSVP ON TIME
If the couple asks for an RSVP by a certain date, submit your response by that date. If you don't, your response is counted as a "no". Don't RSVP after the date! They have likely already submitted the numbers to the caterer/venue and paid their final balance based on that number. The newly submitted RSVPs throws the couple a curveball.
I hope that isn't overwhelming. All of those things can be applied to a birthday party or any gathering - though those are usually a little bit more casual. Just keep these things in mind - as no one HAS to invite you to anything and they're paying for you to be there.
Check out all I do for weddings in the Houston area here!
My cousin, Annie is getting married next week! She met her man, Tim in Sydney - where she now lives. She's here for the wedding and will return after. :( I've been doing some photography lately. I used to be really into it and fell out of it for a few years. I guess I'm back in now! On another note - I love love love engagement photography, bridal shoots and anything that has to do with a wedding. So this was a perfect chance for me to get more practice in on Annie & Tim. We had fun tromping around Houston in the cold, looking for scenic spots and sipping coffee.